مجله علوم روانشناختی (Nov 2020)
Mandatory change in marriage, phenomenal analysis of the formation process and its consequences in marital relations
Abstract
Background: Numerous studies have been conducted on marriage and the causes of conflict in couples' relationships. But attention to the concept of Mandatory Change in marital relationships, meaning not accepting, not coming to terms with the oneness of the other party, and extreme and compelling efforts to change one's spouse, has been neglected in the research literature. Aims: The aim of the present study was to provide a conceptual model of Mandatory Change in marriage, including the emergence of this concept, the study of effective factors, intervening conditions, contexts and the process of its formation, selective strategies of the parties in the face of this communication pattern and its consequences in relationships. It was a couple. Method: Method Qualitative research method and foundation data theory were used. The statistical population includes all young couples in Tehran who lived together for a maximum of 6 years in 1998. Among the available individuals, 23 were selected by theoretical sampling method and examined by in-depth interviews of their biological experience. Results: From the open coding process, 273 concepts and 22 categories were finally identified and extracted. The categories obtained from the central coding flow, in six categories, include: the central category of Mandatory Change "the requirement of change and control"; Ali's circumstances include "a superficial knowledge of himself, the other party, and the family background and the environment in which the person was raised; "Seduction and deception, poor gender awareness and lack of realism." Interfering conditions such as "poor interpersonal mentality"; Understanding and cultural considerations, low emotional intelligence, poor expression, vague communication. The underlying conditions include "heterogeneity in individual characteristics, family characteristics and social and cultural contexts"; Strategies such as "avoidant emotional responses such as negative criticism, avoidance criticism, emotional deterrence, detachment, deviant provision, distance and reading with difficult circumstances" and consequences such as "identity threat, discrediting, psychological trauma, conflict and tension, seal Coldness and Detachment. Conclusions: By informing people about marriage and young couples about the nature and harmful aspects of this concept, as well as teaching them the skills to deal with it effectively, we can prevent the flow and stop its vicious and progressive cycle. He acted on the couple's relationship.
