Living in misery: Child to parent and grandparent violence and abuse

Abstract

This article investigates the hidden and under-researched phenomenon of child/ adolescent-to-parent violence and abuse (CAPVA). Despite the attention given to spousal and child abuse, very little is known about why children abuse their parents or what can be done to prevent it. This article explores how this issue is explained, its effects on parents and carers and the different interventions that have emerged to tackle it. Based on in-depth focus groups with parents, grandparents and practitioners participating in a ‘Who’s in Charge’ intervention in the United Kingdom, this article explores the complex intersection of parenting skills, intergenerational violence, gender, neurodiversity and the associated response (or lack thereof) from education and law enforcement. The article concludes with important new recommendations on 1) the need for better referral routes, 2) greater emphasis on neurodiversity, 3) very early intervention, and 4) the benefit of online platforms used during the COVID-19 lockdown for engaging parents and grandparents.

Keywords

• who’s in charge
• capva
• parents
• grandparents
• neurodiversity
• intergenerational
• zoom
• whatsapp
• violence
• abuse