Agreement as forgiveness; Narrating the lived experience of Tehran women from consensual divorce

Abstract

, the study of the decision and lived experience of women in Tehran in the form of hearing the story of their separation is the subject of this study. Eventually, a coherent account of these experiences was reached in the form of a chronological order. In this study, the statistical population includes 20 divorced women in Tehran in 1399 and purposive sampling method was used and data collection and analysis were performed simultaneously. According to the analysis and also the main and sub-categories extracted, the story of divorced women can be narrated in the form of 7 situations. The divorced women studied were not acquainted with their husbands in a suitable position and "context of couples' acquaintance" and the grounds for their "decision to marry" were not provided in the form of motivations and criteria for marriage. In the meantime, with the "issuance of the marriage contract" among the subjects, whispers of differences gradually began, and also with the holding of a wedding and the formation of life, the couple enters a new phase of "living behind closed doors." In the continuation of life, "spouse infidelity", "spouse addiction" and "domestic violence" are the main backgrounds of "sparks of divorce" in their minds. "Court trauma" is a campaign to end their family life formally and legally. When a woman decides to divorce; An agreed-upon divorce is based on an "agreement as a dowry" so that he can separate from his wife.

Keywords

• consensual divorce
• right to divorce
• divorced women
• narrative analysis
• women